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Apology: A swarmed mind

By Imisioluwa

 
Is apology ever enough? Does it really change things? Does it soothe the soul? Does it make the heart lighter? 

 THOUGHTS ON APOLOGY

Apology is usually used to appease an offended heart. It could be in form of actions or words. ‘I am sorry’ is the phrase mostly used to apologize after committing an offense. But the question here is ‘is apology ever enough?’ does the individual whom was offended really let go of the feeling gotten from the offense committed?

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All these questions keep swarming my mind and I begin to wonder if accepting an apology is all that is needed to move on and let go of every hard feeling.

Apology comes with expressing regret for words said or actions done but is it the action or the word that isn’t enough or the way the regret is being expressed that is the problem?

I believe the way an apology is expressed matters and how thoughtful one can be while apologizing for the wrong done is important. Some People will say it isn’t necessary to wait for an apology while others care deeply about how an apology is being made, an attempt might not even please them.

Apology shouldn’t be thoughtless! it should be intentional and from a genuine place.

Do we ever the deny the fact of obliviousness or are we just ignorant of our transgression. Many things we do ascribe to the intentions beneath our thoughts.


 

Different questions concerning apology bugging the mind

Why say sorry if you don’t mean it? It isn’t the sorry that counts but the place the sorry is coming from. Do you even know what you are sorry for or you just feel obligated to say the word?

Why buy me red roses if you don’t know why I am mad at you? Is that you being the bigger person or are you just trying to shove how magnanimous you are in my face?

Okay, you know your offense, are you really sorry? Do you see yourself in the wrong? Do you agree you offended me? Do you see sense in my reaction? Or are you just closing the subject?

You apologize because you don’t like it when I tear up, that’s a good gesture, one deeply appreciated but do you know why I am tearing up? Do you know what you did that hurt me this much?

You say you sorry that you regret it, you buy me gifts take me on trips, surprise me, fulfill my wishes just to make up but you keep repeating the same offense, are you even sorry? Do you think the gesture is all that matters? What is the point of an apology, if you keep hurting me?

You did wrong, you apologize but I don’t want to let go of my feelings, I am still hurt, I don’t want to be vulnerable with you anymore. What is wrong? Am I wrong? Are you right? Is this right?

I don’t want you apologizing just because I am mad at you, do you relate with my anger? Is my anger justifiable?  I want a heart-felt apology so you don’t cause me a heartbreak by committing the same offense again.

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If you are expressing regret please express it genuinely, try to understand why you should apologize and do it right because a meaningful apology is what really counts. 

 

So wonderful viewers, it is time to share your thoughts; which is it for you? what best quenches your anger? what helps to soothe your hurt feelings?, is it the actions or the words or both?

 Please, keep the comment coming people.

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